Chu He was not an active WeChat user, but ever since she got pregnant, she had been bored out of her mind. She started to play with her phone and joined a WeChat group of mothers-to-be in the same city. This was a group of new mothers or mothers-to-be, some were actually lying in the labor ward, sharing their experience of waiting to give birth, for example, how painful the contractions were, or how they had only dilated the width of 3 fingers after one whole night. Some wanted natural birth but ended up having to do a C-section…
All sorts of situations.
Initially, Chu He thought that it was interesting and approached it with an attitude of learning. Thus, she also enthusiastically posted in the group chat. Later on, she realized that this WeChat group was like a tree hole. Many mothers were complaining and seeking solace.
Chu He had the deepest impression of a woman who was seven months pregnant. She cried in the WeChat group because she couldn’t have sex during her pregnancy. Her husband had made some outrageous request that she was unwilling to perform. Later on, at seven months pregnant, she found out that her husband was having an affair. It left her in despair and pain.
Her story resonated with other pregnant women.
Sexual intimacy was not allowed during pregnancy. Actually, it was not entirely true. At least, other than the first and last trimester, sexual intimacy was possible as long as it was not too intense.
However, most mothers-to-be are eager to protect their babies and refuse acts of intimacy. This results in many conflicts between husband and wife, and some husbands simply will not tolerate it. Hence, they have affairs…
Many women are unable to accept this when it happens, but they do not know how to face it. Most of them end up turning a blind eye.
“What else can I do? My belly is huge and I’m about to give birth. I can’t simply get a divorce right?”
“If we get a divorce, I can’t afford bringing up the baby. However I’m unwilling for the child’s custody to go to him too. I will have nothing left. The house and the car are all premarital assets. I don’t get a single cent…”
“As long as he doesn’t go overboard and the woman doesn’t come knocking on my door, I can only bear with it and let it pass. It can’t be helped. I’ve been pregnant for so long, a man won’t be able to bear it.”
“That’s right. Men are creatures who think with their lower bodies. Can they really endure for more than ten months, seriously? After giving birth, there is confinement. After confinement, it’ll be a long period of breastfeeding. We’ll be busy taking care of the baby. Married life will definitely suffer. After this period of time, everything will be fine I guess! As long as they don’t go overboard.”
However, Chu He didn’t think much of it and said, “It’s unforgivable for a man to cheat on you. Having an affair is betrayal. You can’t forgive him. If you forgive him once, there will be a second time, a third time, and countless times because they will realize that such a mistake has no consequence.”
No one acknowledged her words, however.
But many of them kept silent on this matter. One of them though, for some reason, perhaps her husband had cheated on her, said angrily to Chu He, “All men are the same! I advise you to be more careful! Your husband may seem fine in front of you, but who knows what he is like behind your back? How many affairs has he had? How long have you been pregnant? Looking at your note, more than five months! Normal men wouldn’t be able to take it!”
Chu He replied, “I don’t understand what you mean. Firstly, my husband doesn’t gallivant outside after work. He will always comes home immediately.”
